Playground Politics And Bullies: The Sand Kicked In Your Face

We Don’t Want Bullies On The Playground!

Katy and Beth Swinging Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2014

Katy and Beth Swinging
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2014

“Life is a fight,
but not everyone’s a fighter.
Otherwise, bullies
would be an endangered species.”
― Andrew VachssTerminal

Bullies. Oh, my goodness!  This political season seems to be more vicious than previous ones. Maybe only because it is the political season in which I’m involved right now! Regardless I keep thinking this political season reminds me of elementary school bullies. I’m reminded of the bullies and how a small cadre of not particularly nice or likable kids would follow them around the playground–mostly out of fear. The rest of us tried to stay out of the way which, of course, was not always possible.

“People who love themselves,
don’t hurt other people.
The more we hate ourselves,
the more we want others to suffer.”
― Dan PearceSingle Dad Laughing

I remember that I loved to swing and that I still do.  There was this one kid, however, who would come over and try to shove us off the swings. He would go down the row, shoving us stiffly in the back and we would fall out of the swing in mid-arc. We would cry and pick ourselves up with our scraped knees and dirty faces and go hide away from him. Then one day, one girl tricked him. He was coming down the row of swings pushing us out. When he got to her she waited until the split second before he was going to shove her out and she threw her head back and broke his nose. Yep. She got in trouble but he never shoved another girl out of a swing again.

“Haters and bullies are always cowards, you know.
They like to pick on little guys.”
― Scylar TyberiusSebastian the Great

He was eager to push us around until someone fought back. Now, I’m not a fighter by nature. I feel there is every possibility that we could, if we would, and if we really wanted to, be kind to each other and create a world of peace and love. Bullies do not agree. Bullies much push every one out of the way. Bullies are determined to win no matter what harm they do in the process.

“Each of us deserves the freedom to pursue
our own version of happiness.
No one deserves to be bullied.”
― Barack Obama

We have had eight years of growth. Eight years of Barack Obama and his family setting the example of what kind and loving people and families do. When he became President of the Untied States, he did not shun Hillary Clinton. He brought her into a high position to help America get better and better.

America is great. Together we can keep it great. I urge you to stay away from the bully and fight back with a vote for Hillary Clinton. Don’t you wish, at least once in your life, to punch the bully in the nose? VOTE! That will be the best punch ever.

 

Baby Boomers and Millennials: The Politics of Two Generations

Katy Making A Happy Mess. Her mom is a Millennial! Photo Josh Hailey

Katy Making A Happy Mess. Her mom is a Millennial!
Photo Josh Hailey

“Compared to other generations,
millennials tend to be more collaborative,
are accustomed to working in teams
& have a passion for pressure.”
― Joanie ConnellFlying Without a Helicopter: How to Prepare Young People for Work and Life

My mother Beverly Rains holding me as an infant. I'm a Baby Boomer. Photo 1950

My mother Beverly Rains holding me as an infant. I’m a Baby Boomer.
Photo 1950

“Sometimes it seems both our kids and our parents were smarter than we were. We fell somewhere between our parents’ thirties idealism and our kids’ eighties cynicism. Somewhere deep down we still believe
that all we need is love, love, love.
Somewhere deep down we question how we got grey hair.
How on earth did we get to be the grown-ups?
The wonder is that our kids are growing up — despite all that we did to destroy them.”
― Erica JongFear of Fifty

My youngest daughter, a millennial and I, a baby boomer, were discussing politics yesterday. I have learned at least as much from all my children as I have from any books or thoughts I might have. It is surprising to see the gray hair and realize that I am a part of the establishment that I once railed against.

My children have grown up in a time when they were guaranteed a right to vote, a right to be treated as equal regardless of gender or skin color, a right to move forward and upward depending on their abilities and skills. The millennials grew up in a time when women were guaranteed the right to determine what happens to their own bodies and had access to birth control. Previous generations did not have this.

Just two years after my youngest daughter was born, I was told by an automobile dealership that I could not test drive or buy a car without my husband present because in Oklahoma a married woman could not sign a contract without her husband’s consent. It took only 25 years for me to consider buying a Ford, Lincoln or Mercury new car over that episode!

I was a young woman during the civil rights movement, Viet Nam, Richard Nixon, women’s rights movement and the voting rights movement. I remember how stunning it was for me a sheltered young woman to find out about a war ONLY when my husband was drafted for that war. I remember being shocked that my father thought I should not have African Americans as friends. I protested the war and wound up on Richard Nixon’s list of subversive elements in the country.

I worked for equal rights for women. This included working with a group of women where we were employed to get the right to an indoor bathroom like the men (ours was across the alley without hot water and exposed to the elements) and get paid on the same day as the men (who got paid a day earlier than the women) and get an hour for lunch like the men (when the women got only 30 minutes). Amazingly we won our case and not only got our demands but the court made the company pay us at time-and-a-half for every day we worked and only got a 30 minute lunch break.

Going back to that other time in American history, as Trump and the far right want us to do, is not in my best interests, the millennials best interest or I believe in America’s best interest. Continuing to move forward is the only rational move for America. I want us to move more quickly than we have been!

Much of my our conversation yesterday revolved around encouraging my daughter to vote for Hillary, which, it turns out, she was planning to do anyway.

Hillary is the candidate who, as the first woman president, will work to be sure the freedoms and equal rights we have secured will remain the law of the land. For all the millennials out there, I also believe she will move our country forward in profound ways. I believe this because of her platform and stand on issues that affect each and everyone of us including you the millennials. Bernie Sanders made sure that many of the things he campaigned about were part of that platform.

Today as I explored the differences between Millennials and Baby Boomers I came to the conclusion that although my generation didn’t do everything right by a long shot. BUT. We did a great job raising our children.  They are brave, thoughtful, strive to make communities stronger and believe in the overall goodness we each have inside. They do not hesitate to stand up for what they want and believe in. They work hard together in ways my generation hasn’t always done. We have much to learn from them. I encourage both the Baby Boomers and the Millennials to vote for Hillary because she is our next best hope for America.

To Hillary Clinton I say, “Please start selling yourself more directly and quit worrying too much about anything Donald Trump has to say. He has nothing to say that will help this country move forward. He mostly talks to build himself up, stroke his ego and bluster about things that aren’t important. You, on the other hand, Hillary Clinton are brilliant! You have positive plans for moving us forward and real concern and caring for all of the people. As a mother and a woman I applaud you for your stand for children that has always been front and center for you.

Hillary, please quit worrying about Donald Trumpet because to quote my husband about him, “He must be well-endowed because he does keep stepping on his dick!” There is no need to get into the slime-slinging with him. You, Hillary Clinton, are much better than that.

We Deserve The Best!

WE ALL DESERVE THE BEST

My Granddaughters Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2014

My Granddaughters
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2014

We Americans deserve the best in our leaders. It is a tumultuous political landscape we are presented with this fall. These beautiful girls in the photo, Marti and Katy, and my grandson Luke are a big part of why I am voting FOR Hillary Clinton. They deserve the best of everything our country and world can offer. They deserve to be treated with dignity and respect regardless of their size, shape, color, gender, life style, sexual orientation or social status. They deserve all of this because they are human beings.

Our Children Deserve The Best!

Every child deserves the chance to live up to
his or her God-given potential.
—Hillary Clinton

Hillary Clinton has created programs for children and their health and education but hasn’t received a lot of recognition for her work. She never expected recognition. She expected to be a part of something bigger than herself and then got busy creating new realities for children. It began in 1985 in Arkansas. As first lady of Arkansas, she introduced the Home Instruction for Parents of Preschool Youngsters (HIPPY) program, which helps parents teach their children at home before they begin kindergarten. Here is a video clip about her efforts:

Here is where you can read about Hillary’s platform on children and childhood education.

Voters Deserve the Best!

We should be making it easier to vote, not harder.
–Hillary Clinton

We live in a country that has promised us that we are all equal. However, that is not what we as women and children have experienced. For example, white women have had the right to vote for less than 100 years! Our African American citizens did not have guaranteed equal right to vote until August 6, 1965. Lyndon Johnson signed the Voting Rights Act on that date. It outlawed discriminatory practices that many southern states adopted after the Civil War.

Here is a link where you can read about this incredible injustice that was changed in 1965.

Women Deserve the Best!

Too often, these are called women’s issues. Well, I am a proud lifelong fighter for women’s issues, because I firmly believe what’s good for women is good for America.
—Hillary Clinton

We have NEVER had a woman president. It’s hard to believe how far behind we are compared to other countries. India, Germany and England for example have all had top leadership posts filled by women. I wish I had an answer for why this is so. I do not. I do have an answer for how to bring America truly into the 21st century—VOTE FOR HILLARY! She is fighting for our children, our families and for the women of America. She is playing the woman card and I for one thank her!

Here is where you can read about the women’s issues she is fighting for.

There are lots of issues that are important to me as a woman, a wife, a mother and a grandmother and friend to many people of many different cultures and skin colors. These three issues I’ve talked about are my top three issues—children, women and people of color. Because of her stand and record on these three issues as well as many other issues she has tackled I’m voting for Hillary Clinton.

In future posts between now and the election I’ll address some of the other issues I feel passionately about.

Here is where you can read about ALL the issues she has addressed on her platform for President of the United States of America.

Vote FOR Hillary

Hillary Clinton A woman to vote FOR!

Hillary Clinton
A woman to vote FOR!

Extremism thrives amid ignorance and anger,
intimidation and cowardice.

–Hillary Clinton

There are so many reasons to NOT vote for the crazy man, Donald Trump. But. I don’t want to vote against anyone. Even him. I don’t want to campaign against anyone. Even him.

Let’s continue to stand up for those who
are vulnerable to being left out or marginalized.

— Hillary Clinton

What do I want? Someone who isn’t crazy. Someone who really cares about America. Someone who will look out for ALL of us. Someone who won’t divide the country. Someone who will welcome everyone to America. Someone who will hold up the light of freedom.

I want Hillary Clinton for president. It is more than wanting a woman to be our president although it is WAY past time for that to happen. It is because she stands for what I believe in and what I know will make and keep America a strong leader in our World.

If a country doesn’t recognize minority rights
and human rights, including women’s rights,
you will not have the kind of stability
and prosperity that is possible.
–Hillary Clinton

BUT. Let me be clear. She is a powerful, kind, generous, loving and brave woman. Here are some facts about Hillary Clinton:

  1. She is pro-choice. I want to clarify something for everyone who doesn’t understand pro-choice. It is NOT pro-abortion. It is giving a woman the same rights as we give men to have choice about what happens to our bodies. If men could be pregnant this wouldn’t even be an issue! They would have freedom and not have women dictate to them what they can and cannot do with their bodies.
  2. She wants to make it harder to buy guns. She wants purchasing a gun to be a responsible choice made by a responsible adult who is NOT a criminal. This means eliminating loopholes and having background checks for every single gun purchase no matter who or where the guns are purchased. She does NOT want to take away your second amendment rights and anyone who says that is what she wants is a liar. Period.
  3. She wants guaranteed paid family leave for both fathers and mothers because neither should have to go back to work unwell or without bonding fully as a family. Also no woman should have to face career stagnation because she has just given birth or go back to work before her body has had a chance for healing after the ordeal of birthing. (Yes I know the old saw about women giving birth in a field and getting right back to work—-when that was the reality most women didn’t live past age 30!)
  4. She wants tax equality. This mean no rich person should pay less in taxes than the people who work for them! It is time for America to ditch trickle down economy. It hasn’t work since it’s inception. It is rather like beating a dead horse and expecting your plow to move—not working!!
  5. She wants equality for all Americans. I know the constitution guarantees this but the reality is far from that guarantee. It is time to treat every human being on this planet as an equal. (and in case the Christian fundamentalist right want to rear it’s ugly bigoted head I will remind you what Jesus had to say: “LOVE thy neighbor as thyself.” Get it. Live it.)
  6. She has always fought for our children. We all should have but have not. Why not?This is truly a mystery to me. Children are the future of our planet. Investing in children through good elementary education, health care, free college is investing in our country and our World. This will keep America great (which it already is).
  7. She wants the Affordable Care Act left in place but improved. I’m for that. As a health care provider, I’ve seen the terrible toll the lack of affordable care takes on our citizens. I am for single payer. I created a clinic in central Oklahoma that made a profit for me taking only cash ($40.00 per visit), check, credit cards, Medicare and Medicaid. It can happen anywhere in our country if we give up on greed and focus on health care. I want the insurance and pharmaceutical industry out of our health care negotiations. I’ll fight for this for you and every American.

I believe that the rights of women and girls
is the unfinished business of the 21st century.

–Hillary Clinton

If hating her is your game, that’s your choice. But remember haters are hated. I want to be loved. Lovers are loved. I want to be kind. Kind people are treated kindly. I want to honor everyone. Honorable people are treated honorably.

Dignity does not come from avenging insults,
especially from violence that can never be justified.
It comes from taking responsibility
and advancing our common humanity.

–Hillary Clinton

I have one more Jesus quote: “Judge not that you be not judged.” Period. I do not judge anyone even people who lie. If the best you can do in life is to lie or vote for liars, I feel compassion for you because you are missing out on the juiciest parts of life. Caring for and loving each other is the ONLY thing that makes sense to me. I want to fight FOR something. I want to vote FOR someone. I want to live FOR good.

Here is another great blog post: Lindy West is the author

On The Road From Damascus

“Recognize yourself in he and she
who are not like you and me.”
― Carlos Fuentes

 I have the great good fortune to belong to the Greater Issaquah Toastmasters group. They have been not only kind but steadfast friends who have supported me and inspired me. Last Thursday night, one of our members, Jane Garrison gave a speech. There was a painting with it’s back to us. She started her speech with this:

“When I retired I thought “finally, I get to paint.” My husband said, trying to be helpful, “Paint what you know.” Good words. I painted suburban sprawl, parking lots, cars, tract housing and highways until I was blue in the face. I wanted to go somewhere else, so I did.”

Then she reached up to turn the painting around and said, “Please don’t feel you have to compliment me or say this is any good.”

On The Road From Damascus Painting by Jane Garrison 10/2014 Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

On The Road From Damascus
Painting by Jane Garrison 10/2014
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

All I could say or think was “Oh my!” I was immediately struck with the powerful story this painting was telling.

Next Jane said, “So two years ago my head left suburbs and went to Syria. This graphic is called “the Road FROM Damascus”, to counter the many paintings from the Middle Ages called “The Road TO Damascus”. With both Assad’s armies and ISIS ripping through Syria many people had lost their homes and fled. Three million fled to Jordan, Turkey and Lebanon. Two years later, today, the figure is over 5 million. These people in the picture are heading out across the desert to Jordan. The sun is just coming up. It’s going to get hot, dry and dusty. Some won’t make it.”

At this point in the speech a dropped pin would sound like a bomb. I held my breath. Between the power of the painting (which she called a graphic) and the power of her words I was captive and walking with those people along the road from Damascus. The speech was not finished.

“I really wanted to paint this picture, but the words, “Paint what you know” haunted me. Do I really KNOW these people? You bet I do.”

Then she began to tell the stories of those people in the painting. She pointed to the man with the checkered head dress and said:

“I know this guy. He comes from a wealthy family and was shipped off to MIT to go to college. He hated the American egotistical and materialistic ways. He felt disrespected. He finished school, but then went back home and donned the traditional garb and lifestyle. He foments anti-American feelings. I can tell, however, that he’s worldly by he carry-on bag.”

Then she pointed to the woman with the white headdress in front of the man and said,

“This lady lost her daughter and son-in-law in a bomb blast. Her granddaughter was in school, so she made it. Her husband died many years ago. The little girl was wearing western clothes before her mom died, but Grandma wanted her in more discrete cover. She’s sad, confused and dingy. She has a rough road ahead, and so does Grandma.”

Then she pointed to the man in the gray headdress carrying the orange bedding and said,

“I know this old guy too. He was well respected in his village east of Damascus before Assad bombed it to rubble. He loves traditions and everyone still comes to him for advice. A few years ago he took a young wife and now has a wife and son to care for. He’s worried he might not make it all the way to Jordan. He’s tougher than a boot. I think he’ll be fine.”

Pointing to the young man with the red baseball cap she said,

“Look at this guy. He’s carrying a pc and a laptop in those bags. He is self taught and tech savvy. He rejects tradition and likes all things new. He’s afraid of ISIS but more afraid of Assad’s military. The would kill him, but ISIS would want him. He wants United States involvement, but it’s very complex, and he knows it.”

Then she points to a little boy in a white t-shirt and says,

“Then there is this kid. He was jumping all over the place and just driving me crazy! His mother was busy talking to her friend and wasn’t paying attention to him. I calmed him down for the painting, but he’s going to really act up before they get to Jordan. I feel sorry for everyone around him.”

With those words she smiled–I’m not at all sure Jane didn’t like him best! Then Jane pointed to a woman with white headdress in front of the little boy and said,

“I felt really bad when I painted this fat old lady. She lost everyone in her family and had to leave the pile of rubble she used to call home. Her feet are killing her; her breathing is labored as she shuffles along. Everyone is avoiding her like the plague, because they know she won’t make it.”

Then Jane pointed to the girl with the wheeled carrier and said,

“This pretty teen-age girl and her little brother lived in a very nice house. Their parents were killed in blasts that ripped through their town. They didn’t know how to drive, so they left the cars in the garage, took a little cart that was stored there and loaded their favorite things on it. She took her clothes and her mother’s jewelry; he took his laptop.”

Then Jane looked at us ignoring the painting and said,

“It’s fun to paint pictures. I get to travel the world and meet lots of new people. I know all of these people. YOU know all of these people, because human beings are all the same, with the same strengths, weaknesses and needs. Would knowing that, help promote a solution? I like to think so. I know these people. I can paint them if I want to.”

It won’t surprise you to know that Jane won the Best Speaker award for the evening. It also won’t surprise you to know that we were all moved not only by her painting but by her words. Yet when I asked if I could use her painting and her words she was surprised and in typical Jane fashion she said,

“I would be honored.”

Typing those words bring tears to my eyes for I know, as you must dear reader, that the honor is all mine and now yours.

“Taking Mum’s hand, I whispered
“Are we really safe, here?”
― Alwyn EvansWalk in My Shoes

Rough, Ruff Times

Mollie 2015 photo by Glenda Clemens, 2015

Mollie 2015
photo by Glenda Clemens, 2015

It has been a rough few weeks for me.  I’ve been sick with a progressing and vacillating upper respiratory illness for 20 days now. I’m better but not well yet. UGH!

The thing that is hanging with me today, however, is The Last Starfighter. Yes, the old, old movie. The Excalibur Challenge for the space age. Nothing really important other than saving earth and human existence and perhaps the entire Universe. Just an ordinary boy living an extraordinary life.

The part of that movie that is occupying my mind is a quote from Centari (Robert Preston). “Death is such a primitive concept.”

Death is the rough thing in my life today. Yesterday my dear Mollie died. She was only 12 years old—nearly 13 years old. Yes, she was a dog, the best kind of being to be. She was a little 12-pound Cockapoo who was totally the Alpha in any and all situations.

She came into our lives on Christmas Eve 2003 when David’s mother who was very ill was living with us. She was soft, cuddling comfort for Effie Clemens and a joy and delight for us from her first days with us.

Her first action was to stand nose-to-nose with Mingus, our 100 pound Rottweiler mix dog. She was a 4-pound puppy at the time. She informed Mingus that he was no longer the big man on campus. She was here to set the tone, pace and meaning of life for us all. He followed her lead without question.

She loved to eat earth worms and would jealously chase the robins away. She could stalk Starlings like a cat and would pounce as soon as they took flight. She nearly always brought down one bird and was busily chomping away by the time she and the bird hit the ground. She would bury the bird under pine needles and a few days later when it was ripe she would bring it in a gift.  She even brought one in to Effie and laid it on her lap. In spite of Effie’s squeals it didn’t dim Mollie’s force in our lives.

As life has a way of doing, there is a price for everything. For this glorious little pooch, the price was epilepsy. She had to take lots of medicines that left her liver and pancreas vulnerable. She spent nearly 2 weeks in the Oklahoma State University School of Veterinary ICU for doggies related to her pancreatitis. She spent a week just a few months ago at the Aerowood Veterinary Hospital in Bellevue, WA. However, as we’ve known for a long time, her liver would fail and she would leave this plane of existence.

And what I hold close to my heart is “Death is such a primitive concept”. Mollie has gone on to the next dimension bringing her joy, alpha dog self and becoming someone else’s dear Mollie.

I’m Possible

Katy With Surprise Potatoes Photo by Glenda Clemens 2016

Katy With Surprise Potatoes
Photo by Glenda Clemens 2016

Nothing is impossible,
the word itself says
“I’m possible!”
– Audrey Hepburn

Possible is in the digging! In the photo Katy is holding a few small potatoes. David thought there would be none because the plant died. Potatoes were impossible until he dug in the dirt and found these little beauties! That’s me: digging in the dirt of life.

Well I have mostly retired from clinical nursing and it feels great! My life coaching business is moving forward–finally! I’m working on Clinical Health Coaching certification and Intuitive Eating Counseling certification. Moving forward! I’m taking seriously the saying “60 is the new 40”! I’m creating my next career and life AND I’m writing.  It feels really good but sometimes when I wake in the morning it feels like I’m nearly 66 years old–which I am.

Think outside of the box, create your own path in life.
You laugh at me because I am different;
I laugh because you are all the same.
– Daniel Knode

Thinking outside the box about life is so much easier for me than thinking inside the box. I never fit in the box and I was never happy in the box and when I tried (or still try sometimes) I just couldn’t do it AND be happy.

A client and I were talking yesterday and she reminded me of something so profound I want to share it with you. She said, “For some people, life is about following the map. They are kids who grow up, go to college and have a career. They marry and have children and buy a house. They raise their children and grandchildren and then retire and spend a few years traveling or whatever and then they die.” Then she said something really profound, “But some of us draw our own map.” EXACTLY! That is me!

 Keep on going,
and the chances are that you will stumble on something,
perhaps when you are least expecting it.
I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.
 Charles F. Kettering

So throughout my life I have kept on going on. I’ve never been happy or satisfied when I’m sitting in the box doing what has been mapped out for me. (Schrödinger not withstanding!)  I have always been looking beyond, wondering what is going on that I might want to do, wondering if I could do that exotic strange thing, wondering if I could keep going on without fitting usual, wondering if I could fulfill my dreams, wondering if it was OK to give up customary and expected ways of living. My life has not been exotic but it has been my own of my own devising filled with adventures, love and sometimes miracles.

Impossible you say?
I say not.
I’m possible,
I’m wondering,
I’m wandering,
I’m creating,
I’m living
UNTIL
I’m not!

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On Being A Cranky Toddler

Bedtime Story Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2015

Bedtime Story
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2015

“If you’re not in the mood,
you can’t do that stuff right.”
― J.D. SalingerThe Catcher in the Rye

I’ve had a bad rap for years about being cranky in the mornings. Many times in the mornings I acted like a cranky toddler: grumpy, non-communicative (at least in kind ways), surly, snappish. Today after 9 hours of solid sleep, I woke up ready to rock and roll! It occurred to me then that I have spent much of my life living while exhausted. Without enough coffee I was a cranky toddler in the mornings.

“Mood has to be controlled.
Otherwise, it’s your master.”
― Toba BetaMy Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

I disagree that mood has to be controlled! I think we should accept the mood we are in and try earnestly not to do too much damage.  Slashing, burning, pillaging with your friends and family because you are cranky is NOT what any of us want to be doing, but when we are a cranky toddler, we do it easily and often. I am here to humbly (well, as humble as I get) that if we are too cranky maybe we just need a nap or better sleep at night. After all, that’s the easiest solution to turning a cranky toddler into a charming toddler. Every parent knows this! Why have we not done this for ourselves?

“If life throws you a few bad notes or vibrations,
don’t let them interrupt or alter your song.”
― Suzy KassemRise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

I am not naturally a cranky person. Most toddlers are not naturally cranky folks either. There is nothing quite as helpful for living a vibrant, cheerful life as a good night’s sleep or a little afternoon nap. Very often these days, since I do not have to be up at an appointed time or feed anyone but myself, when I wake within a few minutes I ready to conquer the world.

“Sleep is God. Go worship.”
― Jim ButcherDeath Masks

Sleep is God–totally! I have insomnia from time-to-time that can make sleep frustrating at the very least and at the most leaving me back to my usual morning toddler crankiness. Unfortunately, I don’t have all the solutions yet for my insomnia but I’m working on it. Now that I am working fewer and fewer night shifts it is getting better and hopefully I’ll go on to fewer and fewer nights of wakefulness. I love the worship of sleep!

“Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.”
― Edgar Allan PoeEleonora

So go to sleep and dream your dreams so you can awaken to the great possibilities that surround you.

Once In A Unique Blue Moon

Blue Moon Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

Blue Moon
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

“Once in a blue moon someone like you comes along.”

― Van Morrison

I love the idea that only once in a blue moon someone like me comes along. This may actually be a relief to those who think me too much, too loud, too irreverent, too whatever. For me it implies there is magic in being just me. I didn’t learn about this magic until I was in my 60th year of life. There is a part of me that wishes I had learned this much sooner but there is also the part of me that knows without all the events that happened in my life I would not be the same marvelous woman I am now.

“Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world…if you do so, you are insulting yourself.”
― Bill Gates

I know that to some of you that feels like I’m bragging. You are right. I am. My only question is: Why are you not bragging? Oops I have another question: Does my bragging make it seem like I think I am better than you or anyone else? My answer for you is that I am a marvelous woman and you are just as marvelous. And yet, we are different from each other in a multitude of ways. There is no way to compare me to you or you to me that is open and honest and true.

“Always remember that you are absolutely unique.
Just like everyone else.”
― Margaret Mead

It is marvelous how alike we all are and yet how unique we are. Once in a blue moon we all are unique but in our own special ways. So if life is getting you down remember that you are special, marvelous and unique and that the Universe intended that you be just exactly who you are.

“They wore their strange beauty like war paint.”
― Holly BlackThe Coldest Girl in Coldtown

Today, just before the beginning of the Republican National Convention, 100 women stood naked with mirrors in Cleveland, Ohio to own their bodies, their beauty and their importance in the scheme of all things political. It was a beautiful sight to behold. Women, each of them unique, together standing boldly for all women. You can read a great story and see a video clip of the event on Esquire by clicking on the link.

“I dreamed of being special then awoke to be unique.”
― Brian SpellmanIf the mind fits, shrink it.

We all have had dreams of how life was going to be for us and we were all going to be special, important, famous and outstanding in everything we accomplished. Then life happened and we learned that there was no Lake Wobegon. What we forgot is that all we had to do was awaken to ourselves and discover our unique being.

Let this be your wake up call
You who feel you are ordinary!

Let this be your wake up call
You who feel you are ugly!

Let this be your wake up call
You who feel you are not special!

Wake UP!
You are UNIQUE!
You are MARVELOUS!
You are WONDERFUL!
You are YOU!

A True Tale

Marti's First Fish, 06/30/2016 Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

Marti’s First Fish, 06/30/2016
Photo by Glenda Clemens, 2016

 

“A tale was “true” if it was well told.”
Magdalen Rising:
The Beginning (The Maeve Chronicles Book 1)

Elizabeth Cunningham

So what is a true tale? The current book I’m reading Magdalen Rising: The Beginning says a tale is true if it is well told. This book is a delight of mythology made modern. Not only do I have to stop and look up the obscure background characters (thereby learning a thing or two) but it puts Jesus and Mary Magdalen firmly in the sphere of mythology which I find interesting indeed. Joseph Campbell would certainly have appreciated this book whether he agreed with the telling or not.

“Unlike lying,
an imagined reality is something that
everyone believes in,
and as long as this communal belief persits,
the imgained reality exerts force in the world.”
Yuval Noah Harari

At the same time I’m listening to a book called Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harai. Here is another book that would have Joseph Campbell excited by the implications. They are primarily that humans dominate, in our world, because of their ability to cooperate and further that they cooperate because they are uniquely able to believe in things that exist only in their collective imagination. This includes our laws, our money, our religions, our politics, our way of living in houses, our ideas of family and gender and on and on. Wow! He puts forth the idea that even our willingness to cooperate with each other in this mythic way is evidence of our collective imagination.

“The truth.” Dumbledore sighed.
“It is a beautiful and terrible thing,
and should therefore be treated with great caution.”
― J.K. RowlingHarry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

So what is the truth and what is not the truth is up for debate. I’ve been writing short stories of my life and gathering them together for a book (hopefully). I’ve decided to be as loose and free as I choose with the “truth” of the events and instead tell a good story. After all, the only truth I know of any event in my life is my personal experience of events. So to avoid having to be too careful with the terrible and beautiful truth, I’m writing fiction.

“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”
― Oscar WildeThe Importance of Being Earnest

And I’m reading good books that challenge my assumptions of reality.
It is so much more fun than trying to figure out the truth!