The Defecator In Chief, Ourselves and #METOO!

“Feminism…is not ‘women as victims’
but women refusing to be victims.”
Gloria Steinem, The Trouble With Rich Women

Those of you who have followed me over the years and read my posts may notice there is no photo in this blog post. I would love to have a photo of Donald Trump on this post but I’m not willing to be sued for copyright infringement and line his greedy pockets just to have his ugly face on this post. Come to think of it, why would anyone want to see his face?

“You know, it really doesn’t matter what they write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass. But she’s got to be young and beautiful.”–Donald Trump, 1991

I’m not young and beautiful. I am old and tired and I’m fed up with Donald Trump’s face and mouth. This week he flubbed dealing with the deaths of four service men and defamed the character of Frederica Wilson who is a United States Representative. When his defamation wasn’t enough, General John Kelly jumped on the Trump defamation train to add his voice. They should both be ashamed of themselves but they are not. The worst thing they did was to deflect the conversation away from sexual harassment and sexual abuse that ALL women in America deal with in some form or another every single day.

“You could see there was blood coming out of her
eyes, blood coming out of her wherever.”
–Donald Trump about Megyn Kelly
(because she didn’t let him off the hook with her questions).

Where we should have a leader, we have a mysogynist who openly talked about grabbing women by the pussy. He has publicly attacked many women verbally and that is sexual abuse. For example he said about Arianna Huffington that she was unattractive both inside and out and that he felt her husband made a good decision when he left her for a man. I think Arianna is a beautiful woman inside and out and that stands up for women over and over again.

“We need feminism because degrading phrases like “walk of shame” are commonplace in our social vocabulary, yet these are only applied to women; whereas men in the same situation are praised by their peers and seen as nothing more than ” a guy who got lucky”, by the rest of society.”
Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

Throughout my life I have listened to men say things that are supposed to be funny but are not but I laughed going along to get along. Blonde jokes, women driver jokes, women and their appearance jokes–you’ve heard them all too. I’ve heard veiled comments that men would NEVER say to another man. I stood there silently and said nothing. I’m through with being silent. I’m through with letting jokes about women be OK with me. I’m through with not speaking up and out. The time has come for me and many other women and men.

“They’s a time for sitting still and praying
the wind blow over you,
and they’s a time to rise up and face the storm.”
Lalita Tademy, Red River

Here are some of the debasing things that I’ve personally heard (this is not ALL I’ve heard or experienced):

When I lost a lot of weight, a man in our family said,
“Look behind you; I think I found it.”

 

When I went to a job interview with a doctor looking
for an office nurse, “Come on. Relax. Drink
some wine and we can really get
to know each other.” I didn’t drink
and didn’t get the job.

 

“I’d never have sex with you. That would
be like grinding up a great steak
to make hamburger.” (another doctor)

 

“She said, fuck me and make it hurt. So I
hit her with a brick and fucked her.”

 

“You know if you would lose some weight
I might be interested in being with you.”

 

Putting his loaded gun on his desk, my
Boss said, “Now let’s talk.”

 

“I’m the best fuck you could ever
have. I’m willing to fuck you,
if we hurry. I’ve got things to do.”

 

“You can’t be a good Life Coach.
You are too fat to be good for anything.”
(That was recently on Twitter)

Between the horror of Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands, the deaths of those four men in Niger and many others dying on foreign soil, the Russians invading our voting booths and social media, the legislators raping our medical system and tax code to line their pockets and the tearing down of women’s rights our President has plenty to talk about and has an obligation to work on for our country. Instead, he chooses to open his vile and horrible mouth and defecate on each and every person in America with the vilest words being about women.

“People may not realize the damage that they are
doing by placing the blame on the victim ~
but that doesn’t lessen the
damage that they cause by doing it.”
Darlene Ouimet

I am not sure Donald Trump realizes the damage he is doing. How can any of us be sure of anything he says or does?  Sadly, even if he does realize the damage he is doing, I don’t think he cares who or what he hurts in the process. He seems to be totally lacking empathy and concern for our country as a whole. It seems his only concern is himself.

When someone tells you who they are,
believe them; the first time.
–Maya Angelou

We knew these things about him before he was elected: he is a liar, mysogynist, cheater, abuser, bully, money grubbing egotistical creep. He bragged about using other people’s money to line his pockets and seldom spending his own money. We knew he promised glibly things he would never and had no intention of delivering. Yet enough Americans voted against their own best interests and put him in the White House.

“We mute the realization of malevolence-
which is too threatening to bear –
by turning offenders into victims themselves
and by describing their behavior
as the result of forces beyond their control.”
Anna C. Salter, Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists,
And Other Sex Offenders

We have a malevolent man in the White House. I know that those who voted for him thought he would do good things (I’m trying to understand how this is possible) but he is doing nothing good and a whole lot bad. The forces of our government are not beyond our control. We do not have a direct path to force him out of our government but we do have some tools we can use.

  • We can stay aware
  • We can support each other
  • We can call and call and call our legislators
  • We can write and write and write our legislators
  • We can protest
  • We can vote out those who will do nothing and who support the horror show in Washington DC
  • We can quit excusing bad behavior
  • We can quit laughing at brutal, sexual jokes
  • We can support and love each other